People love differently

If you love someone you must set them free. Well that’s just nonsense. It may have worked in past but the new mantra is – If you love someone, you bind them to you with heavy chains. Why would you let your special someone go? Why would you want the person who makes your life’s puzzle manageable to go? Why would you want the taste of the next 50 years felt on your lips when you touch theirs to go away? Why would you not want your life to get easier?

But in this fast, awfully busy, career centered and self obsessed life, it is hard to not have double minds even if you find the best person to spend it with. The person who made you realize you are worth much more than what you think. The person who made you believe that you are not what you look like. She said- You are the music you listen to, the iPod which is life to you, the shows you watch, the art you make, your favorite blanket, your favorite sweater, your favorite songs, you are the color of your hair, you are your favorite band, you are the mismatch socks you wear sometimes. The person who made you do the stupidest. The things you never thought you were capable of doing. She said- It will be fun. It will be thrill. Something stupid, something bad for you. Just something different. Isn’t this the point of being young?
Because she believed people can live a hundred years without really living for a minute.
 
In this world, where people thrive to find that perfect person and log in to dating websites, try to woo the fairer sex on social network, flaunt dad’s money and spend on someone who is just interested in big flat, big cars and big wallet, where couples sustain on long distance and can not meet each other for years, where couples meet only in college, where family becomes the villain, where different career interests make it harder to keep up with each other, where different castes and language becomes a major setback and you take your near to perfect relationship for granted.
 
You have someone who understands you, who brings you a chocolate every day because she knows you are chocoholic, who makes your iTunes collection popular among friends, who makes you drink soup when you were sick, who becomes your buddy when you want to hit someone’s back, who becomes the second ear to listen to your favorite songs together, who does not laugh at you when your shirt is off your formal pants – Not because she loves you but because she herself manages with the same, who waits hours to have lunch and dinner with you even when she has headache, who makes you breakfast everyday when you can not manage both waking up early and eating something, who gets you a donut and coffee when she thinks you need a break, who kiss your forehead not because she wants to but because you miss home, who mixes with your roommates because you want so, who agrees to hangout in groups even when all she needs is solitude, who makes your maggi special, who supports you when people fail to understand your point, who tries to look better on occasions, who is always available at a call, who is actually interested in you and not what you can do for her. Why would you let her go?
 
Oh yes, because you think you can be happy without her. You may be. You can be. But why would you want happy when you can have “happiest”, “outstanding”, “ blessed” and all kind of better feelings than just happy. People who believe they’ll be happy if they go and live somewhere else or without someone, learn it doesn’t work that way. Wherever you go, you take yourself with you.
 
Sex on the first date doesn’t mean you are a hoe. Waiting months to have sex doesn’t make you eligible for marriage.Sexy pictures doesn’t mean you are happy & having a relationship title on Facebook don’t make it real. What makes it real is you decide not to talk and the very next minute you call her. The frequencies match so much so that you feel you are siblings. But then too much negativity can ruin even a perfect fairy tale. Maybe male ego and a little attitude among individuals becomes a catalyst to destroy things.
Only if people understood better, if they understood before they age 60 that relations matter the most. Our grandparents don’t need money, they just need love, care and their family around. They lived for 80 years and all they need is love and that one person who is perfect for them. We learn all the new technologies, only if we could learn more about life from our elders many relations would stay intact.
 
“Never ignore someone who loves you and cares about you. Because one day you may realize you lost the moon while counting the stars.” -John O’Callaghan
 
Hope this post makes difference in at least a dozen of couples because I like to see people reunited. I like to see people run to each other. I like the kissing and the crying. I like the fact that love comes with its joys and tears. I like the impatience, the stories that the mouth can’t tell fast enough, the ears that aren’t big enough, the eyes that can’t take all of the change,I like the hugging, the bringing together, the end of missing someone.
For those other the dozen, It took a long time for me to realize that people love differently. You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches.

Hugs and kisses!
Love, Nilu

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