Lately I have detached myself from unnecessary relations that only bring me down. I have involved myself into work, physical fitness & special relations that keep me sane and happy in day to day life. After a lot of reading, watching Youtube videos, talking to people with greater perspective of life, being in solitude & believing in the phrase ‘if you want something to change, you need to do something to bring that change’ – I came to a conclusion that at the end all that matters is happiness. Believe me when I say this no one is concerned if you had a great day at office, if you are smiling, if you are feeling good. And with some people this includes parents too who have no concern for their child’s happiness or well being.
To maintain relations , the key point is to keep communicating. Ofcourse you will talk about your day with the one who is actually interested in knowing every detail about you, who thinks you are too special for this world, who tries every minute to make your life a little easier & a lot happier. I was skeptical about detaching myself from even the blood relations that God gifted me but yesterday I saw a Bollywood movie named MOM and it sealed my decision.The movie has great actors like SriDevi, Nawazuddin Siddiqui, Akshay Khanna. The movie is about a girl who is a typical teenager, close to her dad, hates her mom (the character is played by SriDevi) because she is not her real mother but step mother. There was no fault of SriDevi being a step mom to that girl and whenever the daughter got upset and talked back to her, the mother would simply want to understand the daughter more and not make the daughter understand. SriDevi has shown marvellous acting skill set and also brought a very simple yet powerful message that if you want to keep a relation healthy & happy, you need to show the love, your actions will show your love.
The movie progresses to a gang rape of the daughter giving the family a hard time to cope up with the circumstances. But the parents are too supportive of the situation. The police as well as the court fails to give justice to the girl. The girl is obviously devastated by the incident, and even being a stepmom to that girl SriDevi takes the command in her hands. She makes sure that all the four guys involved in the rape gets punished and plots against them.
My point here was not to bore you or give you a review on the movie. My point here is that a mother has the power to change every negative situation into positive one if she wishes to. There was no need for the step mother to get herself in trouble plotting things and bringing back happiness in her daughter’s life but she did it. Because she knew that actions would prove the love and not her words. A family can be broken by a lot of external and internal factors. Only a mother can keep her home happy and together.
Ofcourse not every child is blessed with as passionate , as loving, as caring parents like that girl in the movie.
I loved a particular dialogue from the movie where SriDevi is asked that why would she want to punish/kill those four guys herself. That would be bad. To which she replies “agar Bura aur bohot bura mein se kuch chun na ho, toh aap kyu chunoge”
That is so correct. Ofcourse if you have to choose between bad & worse , you will choose bad. Everybody wants life to get a little easier.
Also, people who believe a lot in their culture & give themselves an image according to their society or the caste they belong to, they do so because they do not have any identity of their own.
To all the youngsters out there – Be yourself. Don’t let the surname you carry confine you in any shackles. Don’t let your society constraint you from going forward. Because that society is going to clap when you reach the top, that society is going to talk rubbish about you when you struggle to reach the top, that society is going to try break your family in the process.
To all the parents – Let your children be who they are. They are going to do the right thing and choose the right people because you gave them good learnings. Trust the younger generation. We kept our values intact while designing a space satellite in NASA. We kept our values intact when we brought a digital revolution. Yes, we are a part of a growing world. Don’t compare yourself with us. Don’t compare your achievements & failures at a certain age with us.
Also, dont just type “I love you” to the person you can’t live without. I love you actually means that I accept you for the person that you are, I will stand by you even at the worst of times, I will fight the world for you. Next time you say love you to someone, do think if you actually love that person or does your action prove in any way that you love that person.
Stay happy. Stay in love.Believe in magic.